1:1 Coaching
what it is
Working together means creating a private and solid container for diving deep into what is and isn’t working for you in your life, getting clear about what you truly want for yourself, and leveraging that desire to create the change you say you want.
I ask questions, offer embodiment practices, and slow down the conversation for us to get curious and really look at what’s happening beneath the surface.
Men often work with me in five-month-long containers, meeting weekly for hourlong sessions (in-person or by phone).
Our weekly work prepares and equips you for optional day-long, transformational immersive sessions where we will dive even deeper and work to shift deeply entrenched patterns in your relationships to self and other.
what it offers
Let’s be real: any time a man is willing to look at his own reactivity, wounding, blind spots, or conditioning, he and everyone in his life benefits.
However, when we try to do it on our own, or only tell intimate partners about our deepest stuff, we risk getting lost, unconsciously perpetuating unhelpful patterns, falling woefully short of our goals, and burdening our relationships.
Isolation makes real change difficult.
Doing your work in a committed container with me offers connection and accountability. It will improve your relationships, liberate you from the unhelpful ways you relate to your suffering, and help you live from your more centered, whole self.
Whether you die more fulfilled depends on your commitment to yourself long after our work together is done, but this work will set you in that direction.
what it takes
What it takes is an emotional, spiritual, and financial investment; a willingness to engage with discomfort and truth as they arise in you; and an openness to actually allow and integrate the deep transformation you really want in your life.
Doing my own work has given me a deep sense of safety and confidence in my own body and mind, as well as freedom from a self-destructive life of playing out patterns of trauma. It has helped me to build a beautiful and unshakable marriage, and become the father and human I have always known was under the layers of pain and suffering.
Of course, I feel pain and hurt and shame sometimes. But I am more able to be with the unknown, to sit with discomfort, and come into relationship and repair when I’ve been reactive or unkind.